Porky and i went to Balestier Rd to buy some sanitory accessories yesterday. We had Ba Kut Teh at one of the stalls before the purchase, and we bought eight pieces of 603 Tau Sar Pia for our snacks later at home.
Porky then asked me. Isnt it very lonely if you are PLU and single at 40 years old? I told him , if you are single at 40 y/o , it is gonna be same kind of feeling whether you are PLU or not. i have ever thot abt this question when i was in my late 20s, that regardless of your sexual orientation , a spouse is not a guaranteed gift from God. Anyone can be single and lonely at 40 yo, no close friends, no family , no lover, everyone else in your life could be busy with their family / kids / boy or girl friends. You could go home to an empty house after work , i experienced that for the last 4 yrs when i was working in China, it is a horrible feeling.
But as a person, he/she must love him/herself enough first , so that he/she is able to love others, love yourself means knowing how to get along with yourself when alone, it's only when you are able to get along with yourself then only are you able to get along with others. A desperate middle age guy who acts like a freak will drive away everyone else around him, and there is definitely no sexiness or maturity in such a person that will make others find him attractive.
Darby
